This is really important to me. I just got out of an abusive relationship, and I hope that no one ever has to feel like I did.
Anonymous asked: Im female physically and I dont know weither I like that or not? Sometimes I get so distressed and sad ttothe point of crying because im not actually male. Sometimes I love being female. But when it switches it gets to the point where I cry and one time I shaved all my hair off. I dont understand why. Im never happy with myself. I dont know what to do right now because im in one of those really upset because im not male cycles?? Is there something wrong with me? Is this offensive to trans* ppl?
I asked you some gender related advice the other day did tumblr eat it??
No, I just haven’t been able to get on the computer until now. Gender doesn’t have to be an “either or” thing, some people are boys and girls, some people are sometimes boys… and are sometimes girls. These are just a few examples.
As a cis gal I don’t have experience with dysphoria. I don’t know what you’re going through or if it’s how some trans* people feel. I can’t tell you what your gender is or anything like that.
I know this probably isn’t as helpful as you were hoping, and I’m really sorry. I’m flattered you felt comfortable enough to come to me with this and trust my opinion so much, but I genuinely don’t know what to say…
do any of my followers have some advice?
My souse is MTF transgender. We married when he still identified outwardly as male, although the internal identity struggle was ongoing. S/he just didn’t share that with anyone. Struggling with gender identity is a common factor with those suffering from gender dysphoria. The effort to align with how family, friends, and society sees you leads to periods of unrest, but there will also be times when a gender dysphoric person doesn’t struggle as hard and just lives in acceptance of their outward gender identity. This doesn’t mean that they aren’t transgender. The struggle also doesn’t necessarly mean that one is definitively transgender insofar as that definition implies the need to switch genders within the gender binary that is predominantly accepted by society right now. Individuals need to find the path to gender identity that suits them personally. Right now there is a movement to break free from the socially constructed restrictions of the traditional gender binary. Being genderqueer might mean that you will be happiest going through the entire transition process of hormone replacement and sexual reassignment surgery, or it might mean that you will be happiest identifying as someone that doesn’t fit that traditional binary at all, or as someone who tranistions some aspects of body and appearance and not others. Look for transgender support sites and transgender communities in your area. They will be able to direct you to therapists that specialize in or are conversant in gender identity issues. It’s important to only use a therapist that is familiar with and supportive of these issues to minimize the risk of having a therapist that will only confuse you more. A therapist can then help you discover what your struggle centers on and help you formulate explore your identity and express it in ways that allow you to be happy and comfortable. Genderqueer conversant therapists can also help you get in touch with the right medical professionals to help you deal with whatever changes you feel are necessary for your own happiness and health. Don’t despair. There are far more people out there like you than you might imagine. Ultimately, you have to find out what will make you feel whole as a person. Be yourself, and know that there are people out there who will support you and hear you, and who will be rooting for your happiness even if they don’t know you in person.
On today’s adventure: Piedmont Park.
Today I did a little Halloween decorating with objects we already own. The turnout was better than I expected!
Tripp is fifteen months old now! Currently his favorite things are:
- Eating: Fried rice
- Enjoying: Palling around with our dogs
- Disliking: Not being able to throw things out of windows
- Drinking: Most breast milk, water on the side
- Learning: About his emotions
- Liking: Walks with mommy and daddy
- Listening: Oldies rock
- Loving: Running through stores, squealing
- Loathing: Car seats
- Investigating: Anything and everything
- Protesting: Wearing clothing
- Playing: Toddlers version of hide and seek
- Sizing: 18 - 24 months clothing
- Wearing: Socks
Enjoying a nice day at home after all of the festive events of the weekend.
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